I don’t usually delve into the super personal on this blog, but since events in my personal life are keeping me from my blogging I thought I’d offer a quick little explanation.
My father had been very ill for some time with two very awful diseases. One was early onset Alzheimer’s disease, which came on hard and fast. The other, a cancer that wasn’t discovered until it was too late to treat. We have spent the last 6 – 9 months spending as much time as we can with him and trying to make him as comfortable as possible. Last week the pain from the cancer was such that he had to go into hospice. The day before yesterday, he took leave of this world.
In all honesty, I feel very happy for him. I’m happy he’s not hurting. I’m happy he has his mind back. I’m happy that he lived his life on his own terms and with gusto, speaking his mind freely and refusing to stand by arbitrary formalities. I’m happy that when life in this world was no longer able to provide him joy and comfort, he just “went on to the next level” (to borrow a phrase from my daughter). I’m happy the very awful thing that’s been hanging over us is now over and done with.
Even so, I’m taking a few days to get my head back together and spend some quality crafty time with friends. I’ll be back to share sewing gossip again with you by Monday.
Paige says
Hi, I am sorry to hear about your dad’s passing. I pray for comfort and healing for your family. ~ Paige
Jessica at Me Sew Crazy says
I am so very sorry for your loss Anne. He is in a better place, and I am happy you were able to spend so much time with him at the end. You and your family will be in my prayers.
katie says
Hi there,
Your outlook on this potentially earth shattering part of life is just plain inspiring! I hope you take all the room and space you and your family need to grieve in your very own way.
-Katie
Linda Lanese says
Anne and family,
I am so sorry to hear of the dad’s passing, but we hope he is in a better place, God bless you and yours!
Linda
Mónica says
many strong and peace for you. I lost my father last year, so I can imagine how much love and sadness you´re feeling now.
We´ll be here when you´re ready to come back.
Karen says
A sad hello – so sorry for your loss – don’t worry about the blog – after as “its only stitching” – God’s blessings upon you and your family, Karen
June says
Am sorry for your lost and thank for sharing a part of your life with us .
Mnemosyne says
I’m sorry for your loss and admire your openness about it. Praying for your peace. -Mne
Julie C. says
I’m so sorry for your loss… Take as much time as you need, we’ll be here when you come back!
Lindsay says
Anne, I echo the words of others and say we are so sorry for your loss, and we support you taking the time you need!
Kristy says
I am so very sorry for your loss… but I am glad for him, and you, that his pain has ended and he is now at peace. You will see him again one day.
Love to you all.
Ginger Gruetzner says
Blessings to you and your family.
Baking Soda says
So sorry for your loss! Take care! (and your daughters phrase is just beautiful)
Zura says
I am sorry to hear about your great loss…I’ve had the same experience, lost my youngest sister to cancer last year, and I could totally understand your feeling of relief that he had been free from the pain and moved on to the next world. Hugs from Malaysia…
SP says
I am so sorry for ur loss. May u and ur family finds a peace and stregth and peace in this difficult time.
Lis says
We just lost my grandmother after a long slow decline and increasing dementia. While I will miss the woman she was, I could not be sad at her death. She was not happy with who she had become and she was ready to move on. I’m glad you are at peace.
Heidi says
Thank you for sharing your life with us, especially in such a challenging time. Sending peace and love to you and your family.
JaanL says
Sorry for your loss, we will all say prayers for your father to be at peace and you & your family for strenght to carry on. Please take as much time as you need. We will all be here for you. If there is anything I can do for you, please let me know.
chris Domino says
My thoughts are with you and your family at this time.
My Mom also travelled the difficult journey of Altzheimers as we did also.Take some time for yourself to reflect. Hugs from Michigan.
Connie says
I’m so sorry to hear about his passing, big hugs to you and your family.
Mosaic Magpie says
I am very sorry for your loss. I like your thoughts on being happy for your dad, I felt that way when my dad passed. They are pain free and happy in a much better place.
Deb
Gloria says
My deepest condolences for your loss. Do NOT expect a couple of days to help get you back on track. It may take months, or even longer.
Take care of yourself and remember “one step at a time”.
Alison O'Grady says
You are truly inspirational in the way you are approaching this heart-wrenching ordeal.
You have hit it with precision. Your dad is now without pain and his mind intact. You did what every good daughter should have done. You will be rewarded.
Thank you for sharing. I know it is hard.
Mary Lou says
My sympathies for the trials you had to go through and the passing of your father. But as u say he has moved on to something better now. Gentle orbs of soothing to u and your family
Chrissi Matusevics says
Hugs to you and love to you and your family
Debbie says
Anne,
I’m sorry to hear of the passing of your father, but you’re right. He’s in a much better place. I’m praying though for the loss your family is experiencing.
Janelle says
Blessings over you and your family in this time of both sorrow and relief.
Karey says
Sorry to hear that, but like you said, he is in peace right now. Sending you many hugs!
April says
So sorry for you loss. Your Dad sounds like a special man!
Emily C says
Take all the time you need.
Sandy says
My dad died when I was 14 years old. It doesn’t matter how old you are, he is still your daddy. Take all the time you need to collect yourself and your feelings. We all look forward to your return, but not until you are ready. You are in my prayers.
Danielle Raichel says
I’m sorry for your loss but happy for you and your family that he no longer is in pain. Alzheimers is such an awful disease and most definitely cancer too. I currently work with elderly that have ALZ and its hard and sometimes overwhelming as people grow attached to others we know for a short time. The thoughts and feelings that people impact and leave us with is amazing and the courage and strength they have really leaves a big impression. My father has been gone for 8 years ago as of the 4th of May due to ALS Disease. Its all hard for those that loose. Best wishes and I hope your days are brighter.
Danielle in Oregon
jill says
my prayers to you and your family .. i too lost my dad suddenly ..we were told he had cancer march 3rd and he passed april 29th .. it was fast and painless for him and i know he is in a better place … sending love to you and yours to help you heal
courtney says
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Melody says
Prayers from Erie, Pennsylvania! <3 <3 <3
Vicki says
Your dad looks like he was a wonderful man. I am happy for you and your family that you could spend so much time with him in his last months and that you, and he, were spared illnesses that went on and on (my grandmother has been in hospice with Alzheimers for 3 years). May you take comfort in being together with your family and with your sewing machine.
Shannon says
My sincere condolences for the loss of your Dad. Please take all the time you need.
Peggy says
Oh, Anne, I’m sorry to hear the news. So glad you are dealing with the grief positively. You and your family will be my my prayers.
Justine says
May your father be with God . My condolences to you and your family.
christina says
I am happy and sad for you. My mother went home two months ago.I am grieving hard but I know that she is free of her body and is singing and dancing in heaven.
I am glad your family had time to share and Hospice can be very helpful. You know he is having a good time at the next level,
Loving thoughts Chrissy b IN Maine